Escort Etiquette - what you need to know before you hire gay escort from London, New York City, Barcelona, Berlin, Paris or Madrid and more.
Adapted from "How to use Escort Services" -
A Men's Guide" By Mary Perkel
There are a lot of things they don't teach you in school, and one of them is how to get on with an escort. Somehow society seems to think that men should just know how to do this. Why they make this assumption is beyond me. The truth is that most guys don't have a clue about what to do in this situation, so I'm going to tell you what I've learned - and what the pros have taught me.
Hiring a sex professional is the same as hiring any other professional, like a doctor, lawyer, or auto mechanic. You pay them money for a service. It doesn't matter what the service is: if you're nice to the professional, you generally get a better result than if you aren't. I treat sex workers the same way I treat other professionals I hire. And like other professionals in my life, these men treat me as a valued customer and may even become friends of mine. They look forward to seeing me again, the same way any other professional likes to see their good clients come around. So let's start at the beginning. Maybe you've never called an escort service before, or maybe you have but didn't have a good time. What I hope to do here is give you a step by step guidebook, telling you exactly what to do so that you can get the most out of your experience.
Why Use Escort Services?
Gay Escorts offer a variety of companionship, from just someone to talk with to someone to have sex with. These men make a living at their jobs just like men who have other jobs to. So, yes, they are doing it for the money. But that's just their occupation. When you hire a mechanic to fix your car, the mechanic is doing it for the money too. It's the same thing. Your mechanic may be your friend as well and he may enjoy working on your car because you're a good customer. The same kind of relationship can be established with your rent boy.
If you become a "regular," you will get to know each other and know what you like to do together - and you will enjoy it more. A lot of men have a real mental barrier about having to "pay for it." This is an artificial barrier because there's nothing wrong with paying for sex - and there are a lot of advantages to doing so. Paying for it doesn't make you any less of a man. In fact, if you've never tried male escorts before, you'll find that the experience is probably different than what you've been led to think it is. And when you realize how it really works, you'll look at it in a very different light.
Free sex isn't really free. In order to get a man to have free sex with you, you have to find someone who is attracted to you and wants to have sex with you. For most of us, this takes a lot of work. If you go after a one night stand, then you're having sex with a stranger, just as you would with an escort. The man you pick up for a one night stand is not really fucking you. He's just horny and you're just a penis provider. If you want to keep fucking him, then you're going to have to develop some kind of relationship with him.
If you start a relationship, you run into one of the biggest problems with free sex: You both have to want it at the same time. You can't just get it when you want it. And then you have to deal with "where is this relationship going," and how you feel about monogamy and marriage.
Maybe you are looking for a permanent relationship. You're lonely as hell and you want that special someone to settle down with so you can have cats and live happily ever after. The problem is that you haven't gotten laid in so long that when you go out on a date you can't control yourself and you come on too quick. This messes things up and you get rejected and you're just that much more love-starved and depressed the next time.
Gay Escort can help break the cycle of rejection. You get laid a few times, feel better about yourself, and when you go out on a date you don't feel you have to get laid. You can take the time to let the relationship develop and have a better chance of finding "true love" than if you weren't seeing and escort. And you may have learned a few tricks in the mean time that make you a better lover and contribute to the relationship. In fact, being with an escort may enhance your life so much that you get more free sex, have better sex, and are so attractive to other men that you will find your one true love, if that's what you're looking for.
Once you get over the "paying for it" barrier, you'll realize that it's really a bargain. What you get is good sex with a guy who generally is a lot better at it than the average "civilian", without the cost and complications of free sex. These guys have been with a lot of men and they know things about sex that you can learn. If you talk to most pros, they'll tell you that the average guy doesn't have a clue. And if you're willing to put some ego aside and learn, these guys can teach you things that will impress the hell out of civilians. So being with an escort is a great opportunity to sharpen your style.
Maybe you just got divorced or dumped and you're hurting and need someone to be with. Being with an escort is a great way to recover from a lost relationship. No, it isn't the same as "true love," but it can make you feel a lot better about yourself and help build back your confidence so that you're functional and attractive to guys again.
Convenience is another big advantage with rent boys. When I want to get laid, I want it now. With escorts I can make a phone call and be having sex in about an hour with my choice from a variety of different guys. I can actually pick a guy who suits my mood. You can't do that in a relationship. Let me explain about "variety." This isn't just a matter of what the guys look like. It's about personality and style. Sometimes I choose an escort who will give me slow, romantic sex with plenty of kissing, sweet talk, and affection. But sometimes I like hot, erotic, animal instinct sex and another escort is better at that. Sometimes I'm in the mood for someone who is just pretty. Sometimes I want good conversation and sometimes I want no conversation.
Escort, rent boy or prostitute? Who are they?
Movies and television depict prostitutes in a few limited and unrealistic ways, mostly to the detriment of the women and men working as escorts. There's the drug-addicted street walker standing on a dark and dangerous corner with a black pimp who beats her hiding in the shadows. Then there's the whore who inhabits a giant Victorian brothel where a guy plays piano in the parlor and the women are slaves to an obese madame and secretly hate their work and their customers. Such stereotyped situations may exist, but they are not the whole picture.
In an attempt to foster a false sense of "drama," the entertainment and news media almost never give a positive slant to prostitution, and for some reason, they rarely present any images at all of escort services. One reason for this may be that there is very little "drama" in an escort service. It's simply a business. Using an escort service means that you are dealing with an agency, just like any other service agency. You don't pick up a street walker and you don't go to a whore house. Instead, you call and arrange for companionship, and someone comes to your home or hotel room and spends time with you in your space. You get the advantage of not having to go anywhere and of being in your own home where you're most comfortable - or in your motel room if you are on a business trip or you're married and can't do it in the home. It's that simple.
Understand, though, that they might not be able to fully describe over the phone what they do because they don't want to get busted. [although in Melbourne, escorting and sex work are permitted in law; however the advertisments, and what one can discuss in advance, are both regulated. 'street-work' is illegal for both client and worker].
Gay escorts - rentboys are human beings and they like to be treated as such. They don't like being treated like low life whores. The happier you make them, the happier they make you. I recommend that you prepare for your escort's arrival the same way you would for a date. After all, escorts offer more than just sex. Often you get good conversation and personal companionship as well. And you get these other services by being as nice to them as to any other guy you date.
So, take a bath, ensuring that you are clean 'down-there', and brush your teeth. Put on some music if that's what you're into.
When the guy arrives, treat the evening like a dream blind date. Smile, be friendly. Invite him to sit down, if you want a chat first to discuss your likes and dislikes [remember that one man's pleasure is another man's pain] or simply suggest that you go straight through to the bedroom. However it is important to remember that the more you discuss your needs and wants, the more fulfilling the experience will be for you.
If you're embarrassed or nervous, let him know it's your first time and that you feel a little awkward. This helps him to help you relax, talk a little more, and allow you to get comfortable. Everyone has a first time for calling escort service and part of the escort's job is to let you know how to do it. Eventually he will ask you, "What do you want to do?"
When he asks you this, you are expected to tell him what you want. This is usually an awkward moment if it's your first time. What you want to get across is whether you want to get laid, just want head, or some fantasy that you may feel embarrased about. These guys aren't shy and will have heard it all before [and a hell of a lot worse, no doubt!!!] - you can be comfortable talking to them about your sexual interests. That is what they are there for and they aren't bashful.
He also needs to let you know that he's expecting you to pay up front, or at least you should put the money on a table in full view of both of you.. If you don't know what to do and it's your first time, just say so. That way he can give you the information you need.
He is trying to give you the pleasures you want, so the more accurately you communicate with him, the easier it is for him to satisfy you as a customer. After you let him know what you want it's time to give him the money. He'll let you know what he expects and how to pay him.
After he's been paid, he will usually have to call in (if you hire him from agency), and let them know he has arrived, been paid, and that everything is fine. After he gets off the phone, he's all yours. This is the time to start getting relaxed with the escort, time for a little small talk. He may ask what you do; you might ask how long he's been working in this field and what he likes. There are only two things that you should never ask an escort, for obvious reasons, and they are "Do you have a boyfriend?" and "What type of guys do you usually go for?".
If you're having personal problems, you might want to talk to him about them. This is an anonymous person, who is a man, and you can ask him anything about guys that you would be afraid to ask other men you know. Most escorts love to answer these questions and they are glad to fill you in on the secrets that hardly any guys know.
At some point you can ask him if you want to "get comfortable." This means "are you ready to have sex?" Your job now is to lead him to the bedroom where at all times you should respect the limits that you both agreed before hand. Relax and enjoy it. He's a pro and you're the client. This isn't a man that you have to impress. He's been with a lot of other men who are a lot better looking than you, and a lot worse looking than you. As far as comparing yourself to other clients, if you are clean, sober, and nice to him, then you're already in the top 10% of all clients and you're doing just fine.
If you're still nervous, you might ask him to start out with a back rub to get used to touching each other. Take your time. If this is your first time and you're uncomfortable, you might want to agree up front that you may need extra time and work out the cost of an extension.
A condom is required which he should provide, and before you begin he should do a visual check for STD's. This protects both you and him. Don't ask if you can skip it or the condom. There are of course a lot of bareback practising escorts, but that should be agreed in messages between you two before you even meet.
If you find an escort you like and you see him many times, the sex usually gets better. You get to know each other better and know what each other likes. Like any relationship, the more time you spend together the better you get at it. After a few sessions with the same person you become what is called a "regular". Escorts to see regulars because they know what to expect, and know you're not a trouble maker.
One way you can tell if your male escort considers you a regular is when you pay. If he let's you pay afterwards, then you're a regular. However just as you wouldn't expect freebies from your doctor or lawyer, don't expect freebies from your escort. If he has made you feel like a friend or lover, then that's his job done well. If escorts gave freebies to all their regulars then the good ones would soon go out of business!!!
Also it is courtesy to offer the escort a shower afterwards, however drinks and coffee and the like, although often appreciated, are not expected.
Sometimes your first experience with a service isn't what you expected. You may have been emotionally too upset. You may not have known exactly what you wanted. Maybe you couldn't come. That's not unusual, especially the first time. It takes a while for some people to learn how to have sex with a total stranger. A certain part of sex is learned behavior and sometimes you have to try a few times to get it right. But once you get into it you'll find it's well worth it and you'll be able to do things you never dreamed.
On a final note - remember that it is not just the escort's responsibility to keep an eye on the time. If you agreed upon one hour, then remember that that is from the time he arrived, not the time you got into bed. So don't leave it until the 59th minute before telling him that you want to get fucked or whatever. It is your responsibility to tell the escort what you would like done early enough so that you can come within the hour.
If you are looking for gay escort, that few steps will help you how to make good relationship with him. Now you are ready to hire a guy from our website.
Enjoy your time!